Relationships/ Friendships/ Drama?

Relationships/ Friendships/ Drama?

Hey everyone!  So this week my blog is going to be over three things.  Relationships, friendships, and drama.  Now we all love relationships and friendships...but..Drama? 

I know, I know...Where in the world did I get drama in this?  

Well, here is a factor of life.  In every family and friendship there is Drama.  Now instead of making this all about drama lets talk about relationships for part one of this section.

Now relationships...Most girls Looooveee a good story of their friends going out on a first date right?  I mean, who doesn't?  You get to hear the whole "He said I have beautiful eyes."  and the "Awwww" of the stories.   But there is more to relationships then just the stories.  Right? 

In my opinion, and you can tell me if I am wrong.  Just voice your opinion.  I feel like their is more to a relationship.  I mean, obviously everyone knows there is more to a relationship but for me, I feel like in relationships you should have great communication together.  I mean, if you just leave your house without telling your husband, hes going to be there like "Uhhh, did I say something?  Did I not clean the kitchen right???  I AM SORRY!! I WILL CLEAN THE LITTER BOX NEXT TIME!!" 

Okay, so I doubt everyone in the world has a cat..

Okay so we have communication right?  So great communication would be great.  Now, for the next part in relationships you want love not lust.  Love not Lust...Hmm.  This is so difficult right?  Because naturally we are attracted to someone and how they look.  We become lustful....Ew.  So, how do we show love without lusting over someone?  Well I think the key thing is we need to know the differences between them.

So here are signs of lust according to Judith Orloff M.D

• You are focused on their looks and bodies
• You are interested in having sex
• You would rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level not discuss their actual feelings

Red more Here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/emotional-freedom/201108/lust-vs-love-do-you-know-the-difference

Now signs that you are in love...Well I would have used her signs of in love...because I agree with her signs of lust.  But....Here are different signs of in love.

• When you are patient with your love
• when you are kind
• Not easily angered
• Compassionate
• Gives without sparing
• Speaks without accusing.

And so on... But here are the signs of lust and love.  I hope these are helpful for you to know what you are feeling and doing a little reality check.  Don't worry though, because we all can be lustful at times.

Well,  I guess you know how to love in a relationship that is basically all the advice I can give you about relationships. 

Now lets move on to friendships!!  Yayyyy!!  

Everyone has that one friend that they tell everything to!  Heck I do for sure.  My best friend and I understand each other so well we don't have to say a word to know whats going on in each others World.  

But friendship is more than just telling everything to each other...I mean....What is true friendship?

Well I guess this reflects back to love.  I mean obvi you love your best friend and that's why you trust them.  But you can take my tips on how to love and reflect those on your friendship.  Because you guys are kind to each other.  I mean..I would hope so since you are best friends.  And you have to be patient with each other.  Who wants to be friends with someone who doesn't give you a chance.

If you have any funny friendship stories or any advice you may find helpful comment below.  I would love to hear.  

I guess I don't have to much advice on friendships, just know who your friends are.  And if they are bad influences be very careful because it can affect you long term.  

Now to the drama....Oh yay....

Now we all have some or know of some sort of drama.  And I don't mean the one where Jonny Depp is Jack Sparrow in Pirates of the Caribbean.  I mean..Great show...but wrong drama.

I mean the drama that happens in high school that starts with "Omg Becky did you hear what Linda had to say??"  And so on... 

So, to ignore the drama what do you do?  

Well first off you want to know who your friends are.  I mean how can you trust someone with a secret when you have only known the person for like...2.5 seconds?  So know who your real friends are.  And do not gossip.  Because it will literally ruin friendships of all sorts.  

Also, keep secrets.  How do you have the right to get mad at someone when they let out one of your secrets when you can't keep a secret of theirs?  Isn't that hypocritical of you?  Which is pretty funny because I would say hypocrisy isn't good for drama wither.  So lets not be hypocrites.  

As simple as this is...and almost everyone would know this..Do not lie...Obviously a lie will be found out in the end.  A lie never stays hidden.  So lets just...avoid the drama that can happen from a lie.  

Also, don't get into arguments.  No one is going to be okay with arguing.  I don't mean talks of the presidential race and stuff because that would be debating.  No, I mean arguing about who is better, Becky or Linda. That gets you into drama.  

And the last thing...DO NOT get yourself involved in other peoples drama.  That drama is with them.  Lets keep it with them instead of you and these other people when it doesn't involve you in the first place.

Okay, well I guess this is all for this blog.  Relationships/Friendships/ Drama.

If you have anything you want to discuss or talk about feel free to comment below.  I love all my readers so much!  You guys put joy and happiness in my life and writing!!  Love you guys!!